Walking at the water's edge of the beach with gently lapping waves....suddenly a big wave comes in and washes you out, you are wet, surprised and unbalanced for a moment. It was all unexpected and yet part of the rhythm of waves, the rhythm of life. Just like grief. Things seem 'normal'. Life is toing and froing as it does and then suddenly out of the blue the sadness and loss hits you - wet, strong, unsettling. (If it is a really big wave it can knock you over) It is a natural process and we know that grief is a part of life. That does not make it easy.


The rhythm of life..

The ocean is unpredictable.


Hang-ups about creativity can reach far back into our childhood: parents, teachers and social pressures can all too easily squelch a child’s imagination which is now your imagination and your creativity. Fear is in the way.

We adopt a self-definition that excludes even the possibility that we are creative. I believe that everyone (and I mean everyone) is creative. Sometimes they see themselves as too rational, or too practical, to be creative and they might say things like, “I don’t have a creative bone in my body.”

Our ‘creative self’ trusts the process and is not stuck on the outcome. With uncertainty, curiosity, stumbling one foot after the other led by our inner voice we can create our own unique pathway of imagination.

We find wonder and beauty, new ideas and images everywhere as we allow our intuition to guide us. It is that hunch, that feeling, that inner urge that whispers to us to try. TRY! Just give it a try.

Creativity thrives on uncertainty. We cannot truly know the outcome of our creative endeavours because the end-product is often far more than what we had planned…it is better, bigger, takes us further, stretches us and could be beyond the limits of ‘control’. (that can be scary) Following your creative self takes you to amazing places!

“There is only one thing that makes a dream impossible to achieve: the fear of failure.”  Paulo Coelho, The Alchemist

“Fail, fail again, fail better.” Those are the words of Samuel Beckett, the Nobel Prize winner for Literature, 




Doing the impossible means going beyond the limits of what you know you can do and are comfortable with to finding out what you are capable of. It is taking a risk -sometimes a big one. Growth comes from resistance (and being uncomfortable) and if you’re not experiencing any resistance in your life, you are probably not growing personally or professionally.

Whether its about yourself, your relationships, you as a parent, you spiritually or your part within the community, and even your relationship with your environment we can all make changes to better every area of our lives. If you find yourself at a place where everything has become routine in areas of your life, and you are just going through the motions, you need to set yourself up to be challenged.

Challenge yourself to get to the next level and you just might be surprised. Thinking 'I cannot do that' blocks you from a whole world of experiences....just give the impossible a go!

Soul Journals

What is a Soul Journal? It is allowing yourself to be guided by your inner being and create a book that expresses through colour, shape, pattern and form aspects of your life journey that is important at this time. It is personal, unique, and uses a variety of art techniques to connect and communicate with deeper parts of 'you'. 

Creating a Soul Journal is special because it is a work of art and a work of the heart. It is a record of your thoughts, reflections, experiences and feelings to keep; to share; to enjoy; to explore. 

The creative process is enriched with meaning, personal meaning, which begins with the cover. Think about what ‘covers you’. Is it how you look; how you present to the outside world; how you see yourself or how you perceive that others see you. Is it what you clothe yourself in as an identity or something like a vehicle that you travel through your life in. What colours, textures and shapes do you relate to this. As the cover is how contents of the book are accessed how do you do that? Left to Right? Top to bottom? Is it like a wallet? Is it clasped shut? Do you need a key? Is it split down the centre? and so on….and then comes the back of the book. Working intuitively and letting your imagination lead you through, connect with what grounds you; what is your backstop; what gives you some closure.

Who am I?

A big question that I already cannot answer. When someone says ‘just be yourself’ I wonder what it is exactly because that sense of myself is really not set. I cannot define it in a way that truly fits me. To my children I am this, to my parents that, to my friends another and so it goes on. (Who am I to myself?) What I do know is that when I am creating a mandala I am connected to myself. Being connected may not define me but I feel the process is about being with me and getting to ‘know me’. Like layers of feelings my self unravels, expresses, is alive - an ongoing realisation. Nothing earth shattering, just layer by layer connecting and trusting the process.



Throughout my life mandalas have been popping up and with them have come an interesting series of opportunities to make BIG changes from travel, creating my'home' wherever that may be, entering or renewing  relationships, changing or developing my career, altering family dynamics, sometimes recreating myself, and other life shifts. They all required a creative mix of effort, knowledge from experience and most importantly being courageous enough to bring about the changes even if at times there was regret...ooops that was not a good decision.  Mandalas have shown me that in some way we are all profoundly linked with everyone and everything in what is called - the dance of life. We follow the dips and the rises, the twists and turns, the joys and the sorrows. 

By 'living' I am making the commitment to life, the mandala, the whole package and I join with others in the dance. 

Mandala artists.... Sue Clarke and Angie


The language of mandalas speaks through symbolism expressing what lies in the unconscious - our 'unknown' knowledge. 
Lapis blue in ancient times resembled the blue of the heavens symbolising our expansive understanding, intellectual analysis, problem solving abilities and the creating of new ideas. This blue is about order and a strong sense of morality/laws. A powerful colour for activating the higher mind and enhancing intellectual ability, it stimulates the desire for knowledge, truth and understanding, and aids the process of learning.

Blue is associated with the throat chakra and represents spiritual connection; it symbolizes self expression, the teller of truth and clear communication. 

Images - 'Hecate' by Tiffany Ashman and 'Loss' by Anna Mow.



'Thinking' can be confusing, and often I can get lost in my thoughts. Literally. Through making a mandala I have discovered a different way to communicate with 'myself' that is free from what I think. (now that is a relief)

The mandala process has become for me is a powerful and effective way to connect with and express my feelings, ideas, emotions and 'knowing'. My thoughts and consequently words are simply not enough to express what I know/sense deep within my core.

My thoughts often tend toward being right or wrong or go on and on about the same thing, but my creative expression is open to possibilities - there is no right or wrong which gives me the potential to explore deeper into understanding my self.  

There are feelings that I cannot even 'think' about clearly but I definitely FEEL and know them.  Mandala art can give me access to that and when I am painting/creating a mandala I am not thinking. It is awesome!

I could say that making mandalas is a process to connect and create with ‘oneness’.

The secret to transforming your passion into your business....

The secret to transforming your passion into your business is that honestly, you do it for yourself. There are lots of ways to go about it because each of us has different needs. Sometimes the smallest thing is a catalyst for something BIG. The most important thing is to be motivated, to give it a go. One step at a time works well and before long you will be running and maybe even jumping.

So seek out the support you need (find a mentor, research, do a course); commit to actually doing it (prioritize ideas/dreams/wishes and start step by step); find the time by swapping what is a habit rather than a conscious choice (prioritize your new needs first, watch less TV, do less on your phone, take a holiday) to do something really for you.

Be with people who support your journey and step back from relationships that have been comfortable but not really ‘helping’. How you create your business is up to you. That is the secret.


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You do it yourself


An artist brings beauty into our world because they see things differently. They encourage us to look at ourselves differently, to question, to pause, to be.

Artists inspire us to be more creative, they work hard at their craft yet only a few make a good living. They stir us with their passion, enhance our lives and give of themselves openly. To be an artist requires courage, it is not all fun and games, so support an artist. Encourage them when and where you can because they contribute to your world.

These different mandala artists inspire me to want to support creativity. I am excited by what they bring fourth, what they share and the wonder of the unlimited creative. Yahoo!


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Perhaps I lost something of myself at Mt Kailash and need to return to retrieve it and again view some of the most magical scenery on the entire planet. 



Sacred site to billions of people, Mt Kailash sits in remote far western Tibet, a great mass of black rock soaring to over 22,000 feet. No planes, trains or buses journey anywhere near the region and even with rugged over-land vehicles the journey can be difficult and often dangerous. Unpredictable weather, can be unexpectedly treacherous yet pilgrims have been coming to this sacred mountain for thousands of years just to walk around it. I was one. Incredibly lucky and naïve I embraced an experience that was life changing, challenging and deeply gratifying. Walking around this holy mountain I had no expectations other than to just walk; to be there and share the experience with 5 others. You do not climb this sacred Mountain - you walk around it. 

It was challenging and we climbed to 5,400 meters without oxygen. Three days later we had successfully walked around the holiest of mountains following in the footsteps of thousands of others. 

Even as I write this if I close my eyes I can feel that same energy - that maybe the molecules or particles (?) that make up my body are vibrating/moving differently to make a little more space between them. Crazy? Probably. Even though it is difficult to explain the physical feeling it helps in describing emotionally how Kailash effected me. Strong beliefs about life and my self, things that I grasped tightly to feel safe or secure or to have a definite sense of who I am moved a bit, changed momentum. There was more space and less grasping and I was drawn more to feeling, to being aware to just being 'there'. I was not afraid. For a space in time I did not have the need to constantly define myself.


Mt Kailash for thousands of years has been viewed of as the symbolic central point of earth. It has four flat faces each corresponding to the four cardinal points. Like a mandala itis a center from which everything emerges from and connects to. 

For more information on Mt Kailash. 





Travelling lets lose my 'other self'. It is when I am free from my every day life and free from my every day self. I feel open open to new ideas and experiences. I am ready to explore. Time becomes the moment instead of being filled with what must be done and what I still have not done.
There are periods of stillness, of just being. I could be waiting for a flight, sitting in a bus, or watching an awesome sunset. At those times I can reflect on my life up to now and just connect with who I am. This is traveling into myself because I am with myself and not just my life.

I connect to a sense of transition - that life is ever changing and so am I. Impermanence. For me this releases the tension of needing to remember everything, of being in control, of being responsible, of having to hold onto life.

If life is a journey then I want to be a tourist.


turf maze, UK maintained by villiagers for centuries.

turf maze, UK maintained by villiagers for centuries.





Julia Cameron, a mandala artist, says, "The creative process is about surrender, not control." 

Creating mandalas is simple and yet complex. By understanding the creative process I have learned more about the depths of this fascinating art. 

The creative process according to psychologist, Dr. E Paul Torrance is described as "a process of becoming sensitive to problems, deficiencies, gaps in knowledge, missing elements, disharmonies, and so on; identifying the difficulty; searching for solutions, making guesses, or formulating hypotheses about the deficiencies: testing and retesting these hypotheses and possibly modifying and retesting them; and finally communicating the results."

I believe that when we create mandalas we encounter this process as well as tapping into the vast resources within our unconscious, the collective unconscious and more. That is AWESOME!

Creativity according to ancient beliefs was something that God alone possessed. Humans were not considered to have the ability to create something new except as an expression of God's work coming through them. In the Greek and Roman culture creativity was also linked to the sacred or the divine. It was a process of mediating inspiration from the Gods. Later in history (Renaissance) creation began to be perceived as having originated from the abilities of the individual, and not just God. Perhaps it is both?

Creating mandalas is an ancient art form which is also like a conduit to the divine. We connect with a deeper spiritual aspect of the self and express that through art.

By letting go of all beliefs that you need to be an artist or have some sort or art talent or giftbefore you can create a mandala opens up your individual approach to mandala creation. Being creative is different from calling yourself an artist. It encompasses MORE!

There are steps or phases of the creative process and they may not always be taken in order depending on the individuals make up.

1. Preparation – mind work, meditation, connecting mentally with the challenge to create a mandala. Setting in motion the thought processes of the desire.

2. Incubation -  where the problem is internalized into the unconscious mind and nothing appears externally to be happening. "I cannot see it - yet"

3. Intimation - the creative person gets a "feeling" that a solution is on its way

4. Illumination or insight – the “ah ha” moment where the creative idea bursts forth from its preconscious processing into conscious awareness

5. Verification - Making it happen. The idea is consciously verified, elaborated, and then applied.

This may seem to be daunting and yet we encounter this process as easily as breathing. The creative spirit is part of who we are and it naturally expresses itself when we give it the opportunity.

We all start with a blanc canvas. We all start from the same point. We are equal.

It is important to recognize and set free our inner artist. Know that everyone expresses out art differently, uniquely. There is no competition. We do not need to compare our art to that of others. There is no judgment of our own creativity or that of others. 

Instead of using thoughts or words we will allow ourselves to express through images, colors, shapes and symbols.  We experiment and explore the concepts of a mandala :- segments, geometry, lines, shapes, colors, divisions and connections, patterns and repetition.

Try not to ‘see’ the finished product and let your creation unfold, develop and grow without the restrictions of expectation. Mandala art is not about rules, should dos and musts and getting it ‘right’. Expectations can ruin the outcome. They belong in the future and we remain in the present.

Remember that your hands are the tools. Your eyes are the seekers of light, shade, shape and wonder. Your imagination opens the door to unlimited possibilities. With an open mind you can explore the unknown and express your HeART in art.



Why do we retreat?

You cannot pour from an empty cup. We need to replenish from the inside out. By nurturing and supporting the relationship with our ‘self’ we are able to have healthier and happier relationships with others.

Temporarily retreating from the habits and demands of ‘everyday life’ gives us the space to take a fresh look at our lives, to re-connect and nurture without distractions.

EVERYONE in our life benefits when we refill our cup by :-

1.     Relaxing in the moment

Being separated from our everyday life gives us the space to be present and aware of our body and what it needs. We have time be involved in what we are doing. Each moment is a joy because we are not pressured by thinking and re-thinking about what needs to done next or worrying about what we have not done. Finally we release stressing about every little detail of our busy lives and relax. Truly relax.

2.     Being with like minded people

Joining with others who are committed to improving their lives, interested in personal growth and embracing new experiences is inspirational. You may create new friendships that support, uplift you and inspire you to be the best that you can be.

As Richard Branson says “The quality of your life is a direct result of the quality of people you surround yourself with.”

3.     Creating positive changes

Through creativity we deepen our self-awareness to discover our true heart’s desire and soul’s yearning. Being involved with different activities, places and people during your retreat exposes you to a different way of being you. This experience will leave you feeling more present and connected to who you are.

Fully immersing yourself in a retreat experience really supports long-term change. To feel energized and re-vitalised sometimes you just have to get out of your current environment to see what needs to shift. You have the space to find clarity in your life.

4.     Rejuvenating the body

A retreat provides you with opportunities to nourish for your outer self, which in turn nourishes your inner well being. Take a Yoga class. Indulge in healing massages, facials, manicures and other beauty treatments. Caring and lovingly treating your body works wonders for ‘you’.

5.     Connecting  with nature to nurture

Taking a walk in nature and enjoying the stunning beauty of all that the natural world offers is in itself very healing. By sitting in nature you connect with the nurturing power of the earth itself to ground and reset your inner harmony.

6.     Discovering self worth

The more we make time to prioritize self-love and self-nurturing practices into our lives, the more EVERYONE benefits.

Can you make the time? Organize something that is just for you and take a small break from your life, loved ones and or work, to be with yourself for YOU. Retreats offer you the space to truly care, nourish and love you.

Re - fill your cup. You are worth it.



Everyone has to deal with difficult people - often on a daily basis. We find them at work as customers or co-workers; in our family as children, teenagers, parents and spouses. Even our friends can react emotionally to situations. Everyone gets frustrated with the life’s limitations.  We can be difficult to deal with too!

The way you handle it depends largely upon the relationship that you have with that person. Keeping calm and clear headed and staying rational when people are being difficult is easier said than done. Emotions make it tricky. By understanding what motivates people to be difficult can help. Here are a few tips.

1. What do they want?

By being difficult we can get what we are after. This might be being heard, respect, attention, letting off steam, feeling important and valued, being understood or having something made right or fixed. By giving them what they want can satisfy their need and stop the behavior or it may inflame them making it worse.

A genuine request usually ends up well such as a person who is rightfully upset or angry, or a customer with a genuine complaint. If a person is a bully, back stabber or has an axe to grind nothing will satisfy them. Make clear boundaries on the behavior such as,” Mary, stop shouting. Speak to me in a normal tone of voice so that we can sort this out.”

2. Do not take it personally.

Filter out hurtful remarks, attacks and criticism and listen to the facts and other useful information.

Angry people often see their emotions as facts. Use these steps to defuse the situation.

·         Ask – ‘What did I specifically do or say that has upset you?’

·         Let them get it all out (Be calm and do not interrupt)

·         Tell them you appreciate them letting you know.

·         Ask them – ‘What can I do to make it right?’

3. Support yourself

Make sure your self talk supports you. Do not put yourself down or let you get put down.

Self talk “I can handle this well” “I can get through this and it will all work out”

4. Breathe and make space

When we are under threat we often hold our breath. Try to relax. Breathe deeply and give yourself more oxygen to think clearly. Make the space between you comfortable or change position if you need to. You may need to take a break or walk away to diffuse things.

5. Focus on a win/win outcome and be flexible to get it.

 Keep your ego under control. Do not seek to win. Look for a good outcome overall. Do not seek to punish.

6. Listen - acknowledge that you hear them AND understand their point.

Difficult people generally feel unheard, ignored or not valued. They can start shouting use abusive language, over exaggerate and generally get in your face. Show them you are listening – really listening (don’t fake it) by using appropriate responses and body language. When a person feels heard they often settle down.

7. We cannot change another person but we can change their behavior.

You are not trying to fix the person. Deal with the behavior. Their bad behavior is the problem and not them. Make sure they get that message too.

8. Be aware of what you say and how you say it.

Even though it may be really hard to do, be polite, courteous and reasonable. Sometimes silence is Golden. Bite your tongue if you have to.

9.Keep it simple.

Keep your responses clear and simple. Angry and upset people cannot take in much. Difficult people often have less abilities of communication. Keep your tone even, stay calm and say less.

10. Do not give away your power.

Many of our issues with difficult people come from the fact that they have very different beliefs from us or very different ways of communicating. Some people are just plain difficult. Accept it.

11. Don’t gossip or complain about the person.

Avoid complaining, going on and on about what they said or did unless you’re truly discussing the situation with an eye towards finding a solution to the problem. Getting yourself worked up and creating more negativity around the situation does not help. Stop doing that and you’ll find that some of the bad feelings dissipate.

12. Let go of grudges.

Many of us hang on to grudges towards the people that have been difficult in the past. This makes it hard to move on to a better relationship with them in the future. Learn to forgive and let go and work from this point forward.

13. Be real.

Even with the best intentions sometimes we cannot always get it right. Be kind and compassionate with yourself.... your best efforts are the best. Smile.

Looking for Art?

Art is everywhere - you just need to look. From the minute to the magnificent it surrounds us and fills the crevices of our busy lives with joy; with inspiration.

My garden is one of those places where art lurks ready to catch my attention and pull me away from my every day life concerns. For the past month we have been working daily and often until dark getting out garden ready. Getting it ready to delight, to entice others to discover and explore the beauty of this wondrous place. Why?

Because it is a place to share. We support our local fire brigade with the funds raised and we understand that such a special place supports the artist that is within all of us. SO much to see, to feel, to smell...to inspire. The garden is a great and endless giver. You just need to look.


“The most beautiful experience we can have is the mysterious. It is the fundamental emotion that stands at the cradle of true art and true science.”
Albert Einstein, The World As I See It